Take fresh banana flower. Some banana flowers will be slightly bitter so discard 2 - 3 outer covers. The banana flowers from "nendra baale" or "elakki baale" are less bitter and tastes good.
Next finely chop the banana flower.
Next take oil in a frying pan and heat it. Add in 1/2 tsp mustard seeds, 1 tsp urad dal and 1 tsp gram dal.
When the mustard seed splutters, add in turmeric powder, asafoetida and curry leaves.
Add in chopped banana flower. Fry for a minute under medium flame.
Add in a 1/2 cup of water. Also add in tamarind extract, jaggery and salt. Give a quick mix. Close the lid and cook under low flame.
Meantime dry grind the grated coconut, red chilies, mustard seeds, coriander seeds and cumin seeds using a small mixie jar.
Wait until chopped banana flower is cooked or until the water is dried. Add in ground coconut and red chili mixture.
Mix well for a minute. Switch off the stove and serve it with hot steaming rice or chapathi.